All mental health licensing ethical codes focus significantly on the realm of boundaries with clients and competent/ethical practice. Self-care is a misunderstood concept and is vital in reaching the wellness level necessary for competent and ethical practice. Learning about the ways we unconsciously blur boundaries with clients through counter-transference, codependency, and neglect of our own trauma work can help to improve our ability to practice ethically and competently in the field of mental health and trauma.